There are lots of creepy men in New York. Every woman has a story (probably more than one) about some creepy dude who sexually harassed her on the tra

There are lots of creepy men in New York. Every woman has a story (probably more than one) about some creepy dude who sexually harassed her on the train, or at a bar, or in a cab, or on the street. You name it. One of my friends was kicked by a homeless man and not too long after that had some other dude sit down next to her on the train platform, start "touching himself" and rubbing her arm. I once had a homeless man grab my thigh then proceed to tell everyone else on the train about how great it was. Not to mention the many sexually explicit things I have had to hear from passers by and cab drivers or random men on street corners.

Perhaps my beauty is so overwhelming it forces men to speak from their "heart"? I sincerely doubt that is the case. I fear that there are just a bunch of sickos out there. And if EVERY woman I know has more than one story about some disgusting pervert doing/saying/touching something inappropriate, and it clearly isn't the same guy, then is it wrong for me to assume that every guy I know has done/said/touched something inappropriate? I don't know. But you all should just think about how you behave. Frankly it is getting annoying. It isn't like I walk around half naked either. In fact half the time I get harassed it is when I look like shit. Which makes me further believe there is something really wrong with these men.

The last couple nights I have gotten off the train and had the creepiest men in America walk slowly behind me. I am still slightly paranoid walking around the city by myself at night, but you know what they say...better paranoid than dead. If it is dark out and I am on a poorly lit street and some dude is creeping up behind me, how am I supposed to feel? "Oh I am so glad this big hairy dude I don't know, twice my size is walking right behind me...I feel so safe."

I feel like most men who have sisters, daughters, girlfriends, or friends of the female persuasion should know by now. But in case you don't, let me help you out. If you are walking closely behind a woman at night IT IS CREEPY!!! It doesn't matter if you are a good guy or if you know you aren't going to do anything. Just take my word for it, it is CREEPY. Why is there a need to walk so closely behind me unless you are actually going to mug me, rape me, then leave me for dead? It serves no other purpose.

It happens the same way every time. And even though it happens over and over again it still makes me feel uncomfortable. The first thing I do is turn around to take a look at him. I usually give the "why are you walking so close behind me look" and sometimes that works. Also, I was told that if you look your assailant in the face before they attack you they are less likely to come after you. And it is also good to see whether or not I stand a chance fighting him off. I'm not going out like a little bitch I'll tell you that right now. You want my bag and my cell phone...you can have it, anything more than that well, your in for a fight.

After the look, the next thing I do is slow down in hopes he gets the hint that he is making me uncomfortable. It also gives him a chance to walk past me. Men generally have longer legs than me so if I slow my pace he will have no problem moving along right? But inevitably the creepy guy slows down too...if I try to walk faster to out walk him...you guessed it he speeds up. It still amazes me that men can be that clueless.

Haven't these people ever heard of a safe traveling distance. You have to do it when you are driving a car, so why not when you are walking? If you are walking behind a woman at night who is by herself please do everyone a favor and either cross to the other side of the street or pass her. Don't whistle. Don't talk to yourself. Don't bang your keys on railings. Don't tell her she looks nice tonight. Don't ask who she is talking to on her cell phone. Don't ask where she is going or if you can come over. Just shut up, speed up, or cross the street. Unless you actually plan on attacking them...and if that's the case just get it over with. No need linger back there and have her wonder and worry.

I know that there aren't people following me around hoping to get a chance to mug me but it is just an extra annoying thing women have to think about. Perhaps it is the fact that you rarely have to worry about some man coming up behind you and dragging you into a dark alley and that is why you can be so insensitive. Let's just call this a public service announcement to all men out there. Please stop being creepy. Now that you have read this, you have no excuse. Tell your friends.